The Importance of Not taking it all so seriously
Weekly Radish 39
Let’s Talk About Stress
Building on from my point last week on the importance of being open about stress, I want to use my ‘let’s talk about stress’ video (You can watch the video here) to make another important point - watch today’s weekly radish video to learn my three reasons for deliberately putting myself in embarrassment’s way and why taking things less seriously, especially what others think of you is so important.
So, there you go, I’ve said it. I still cringe a little when I hear people have watched the original ‘let’s talk about stress video but I stand by my original reasons and, although from time to time over the intervening years i have found myself drifting back into taking things too seriously, i have caught myself in the act and ‘stepped away’ from the seriousness. I have no regrets (honest) - well ok, maybe I would like to have the hair I did back then ;0
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- Let's not take it all so seriously.
Welcome to this week's Weekly Radish,
and this week, I'm gonna take the theme
of let's talk about stress, baby,
in the cringe-worthy video
that I linked to last week.
♫ Hope, I've lost hope
So last week, I talked about the message
behind the let's talk
about stress, baby, video.
This week, I wanna give
you the three reasons
that are more personal to me,
the reasons why I created that video.
And it wasn't just for a laugh.
Oh, it was a laugh.
First reason, I realised that
part of my anxiety in the past
was taking it all so seriously,
taking me so seriously,
taking how I interacted with the world
and worrying so seriously,
and worrying about what everybody thought.
And I realised that, actually
challenging that instinct
to play safe, to not
make a fool of myself,
to always play on the safer side of that,
was inhibiting me and holding me back.
So what better way than to just simply
jump into the deep end
and make a tongue in cheek, silly video
with serious messages to
challenge my own instincts.
So it was about challenging
my own instincts
to play it safe, and draw back
from making a fool of myself,
and in doing something that seemed so bold
and daring for me, it actually helped me.
It helped me in those lesser situations,
question my instinct to play safe,
to hold back to, whether I
might make a fool of myself
in those situations,
because I was able to go
well, you did that Dave.
You did that, you survived
it, and it was fine.
You can do this, push yourself.
And I found by making that bolder step,
the smaller day-to-day challenges,
I was able to rise to more comfortably.
The second reason was that I'd embarked on
setting up this business,
and I wanted my business
to be a reflection of me and my attitude
and approach to life, and
I didn't want it to become
a reflection of the past me,
the serious, anxious me,
the me that played by the
rules, that followed procedures.
I wanted it to be a reflection
of the silly, playful me,
with the passion in the
messages that I was delivering.
So it was about how I approach my life,
not just personally, but in work,
because my business is
a key part of my life,
and it needs to be a
statement of what I believe,
which is invest in yourself,
take life less seriously,
and allow yourself to be truer to yourself
in whatever you do.
And the third reason is to be an example.
I wanted to show that taking those risks,
stepping out and doing something
that feels uncomfortable,
that might feel a little bit,
potentially like embarrassing,
or that you might make yourself exposed
to some sort of ridicule,
that actually I can be
an example to others.
Now I'm not suggesting you
go out and do something
so extreme and possibly
ridiculous as a video
like I've suggested, but it's
also about asking yourself,
where have you played small,
where have you held yourself back
when perhaps just being a little bolder,
and taking that step forward
could have opened up a
world of opportunities.
The way to developing a sense of freedom
is to take it less seriously,
to be less concerned about
what people think about you,
to just do it anyway,
having word of the ethical
and moral consequences,
but just to give yourself that freedom
to just go forward and step into something
that may feel scary,
may feel uncomfortable,
may open yourself up to
some sort of ridicule,
but you're allowing yourself to be you.
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